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“SUID-afrikaners” is plesirig!


Not to be controversial or anything, I honestly believe that as south africans at large we are extremely talented and have the greatest potential on this green earth of ours.

I watched “die wonderwerker” on the weekend on showmax, a story about Eugene Marais. Oh my word, our actors! our people, our film makers – I could wax lyrical and then some.

I just love Karen Zoid and her republic of zoid afrika. She show cases the best of us!!!

Again and again and again.

Opens our eyes to the beauty around us. Allows us to dream harder, believe.

WE so can. We are amazing people. Resilient and talented and beautiful and amazing

“ama” zing.

My absolute best is at the end of the show what one thing would you wish for OUR country – watch and be inspired – I am!!!

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@ 2 Quarry road :)


We are here, we are settled and we are happily ensconced at the Ellen bird.

Ellen bird : coffee shop, gift shop, play area, party area, homework area etc.

Practitioners : speech therapist, remedial teacher, integral coach.

Dr Lee the GP @myinnatehealth (www.myinnatehealth.co.za) : GP, 2 dieticians (diabetes and eating disorders), life coach as well as PRP/laser/quantum therapist.

0832898351 for whatsapp or phone calls.

drleesecretary@gmail.com for emails.

MOVE – Dr Lee THE GP …0832898351


Dr Lee is moving to The Ellenbird in hilton – 2 Quarry road, New phone number : 0832898351, we are relinquishing telkom. We have to pay them 30k to go away. And trust me this is the “cheap” option. IN a nutshell, don’t sign a contract with telkom.

NUFF said!

Fran Steart, Michele Albets, Fiona McRimmon and Elze Scheepers will join us at the Ellen Bird. Fran and Michele are dieticians specialising in diabetes and eating disorders. Fiona is a life coach and Elze is a laser and PRP practitioner.

Pop in – coffee at the coffee shop, gifts and the gift shop and medical help including speech therapy etc all available.

AN idea of the feeling you get at our new practice :

Death Oh who art thou?


To lose a loved one is one of the hardest things for me. I am so unsettled by it, especially if it is someone my age or younger. Because I am young. And Death is so definite.

At someone’s memorial or funeral one expects to gain closure and to get some kind of “feeling” that the world is upright again. But alas it is not always so.

My “friendus” Mark Reynolds was a larger than life person who was always going to defeat death until he didn’t. I met Mark on the “kleuterskool” play ground in a small town called Tzaneen where english speakers were in the minority. There were 3 of us : Mark, Vivienne and myself.

We played on the “baantjie” and said ” get away, get away” a lot. We forged a friendship right there and then that lasted an eternity (I hope). Death confuses me and many of the things I hope for (faith) elude my desire for confirmation thereof.

Throughout junior and high school we played, we learned, we experimented. Mark was the first to offer me a cigarette -menthol nogal. I tried it, hated it and it convinced me lifelong that I would not smoke. We hiked in the gorgeous agatha forest, slid down the rocks. We laughed so much mostly our sides split.

We rode horses in Sabie – galloping into eternity together.

More recently Mark attended my sister and my wedding. I will never forget Mark giving my bemused husband-to-be a flower as was his custom.

Mark’s laugh was one of those that triggered others to laugh and not stop. His smile captivated. His heart was one the most beautiful I have ever seen. He sacrificed so much for others – his important others.

In love I believe he was let down so badly it still hurts me. He painted out of that and gave up on romantic love – which is so so desperately sad but I believe he was trying to self preserve. For me this is so tragic as he was a gorgeous soul and the love between 2 people – true romantic love as it were is something that can take one to heights that nothing else can- and it did – only it dropped him too (as it does many).

He had so much to give – in life and love.

Taken way way too soon, I just don’t understand and I guess never will.

What I know is that we must live here now, and make each minute count. We must cherish each other in the moment. Be present in the moment and live each as if the last.

 

To Mark – my “friendus” ignite heaven as I know you will with your soul. Devastate them with the joy that radiates out of it. The deeper the sorrow carves into your being the more joy it can contain. I love you and I always will.

The power of the double x ;)


Do not under-estimate the power of a woman. Once activated she can be radio-active. A ball of fire. A genuine force of nature. WE are not half x and half y – we are double x or double X!

Made from Adam’s rib, created to be a help-meet. Created to bare both boys and girls. Created to create.

Women across the world have a kindred spirit – gentle, kind, strong ,powerful. We tend to “attack” problems or hiccups in a very different way to our XY counterparts. Empathy is like breathing for us. Life and it’s ebb and flow very much part of each day’s struggle to nurture our children and loved ones. A privilege we cherish yet sometimes hard to keep on keeping on.

Take Ingrid Jonker – a women whose heart literally bled for south africa. She struggled so intricately  with herself and her father’s rejection that it forced her to walk into the sea, yet the poetry she wrote was pure gold that flowed out of that tortured and tormented soul -deep so deep, squeezed and percolated through her fragile life. She leaves us with a legacy of touching tales that shake your core and leave you in awe.

Thuli Madonsela – a tribute to justice and dogged yet gentle pursuit of the truth without being rude, disdaining or plain. A strong tall tree yet softly spoken authority. A real rare gem leader. Astounding ability to hold her own self back and gently speak to a situation. She radiates, emanates peace and truth, it seeps through her pores and is heard.

There are so many examples of women through the ages. Steel women, whose hearts are so fragile and gentle they are broken by the weight of a feather, yet stand despite the brokenness. Beat despite the lack of a song to accompany the beat. Sometimes beat to the sole beat of a single drum. But pick up that pace they do.

XX a gift to us. We got double the staying power, double the gentle breeze.

 

 

 

Women uniting


One thing’s for sure it seems that women have found a voice and their inside beast has been shaken and woken. Riled. No longer will we put up with atrocities of the past and trying to be silenced by patriarchy.

It is not ok to carry on the way Donald Trump has on videos etc and think that this can be swept under some great big male carpet.

It is not ok to break down years of progress made by women at large in terms of struggles fought on many levels.

I am delighted to see woman globally uniting and voicing their own truth.

It’s almost guttural and certainly from a very strong deep place inside. It’s certainly pro unity and taking a stand.

From madonna to Ashely Judd to Michael Moore. From the USA to australia. Unity.

Yes we are diverse. Yes we are a rainbow. Yes we are not the same. But yes we are united.

So where these odd men think they can sit around a table and legislate things that they will never understand.

A man will never understand the process of bearing a child. From conception to death of that same child.

And interestingly there is not a man on the planet who was not birthed through the channel of a women- and they dare to speak of respect – oh my word!

I would love for this to change biologically and maybe someday it will. When hormone patches were put onto men in a trial (perimenopause trial) 100% of them became unstable and unhappy to say the least, so it will truly be an interesting day if that does happen.

I am glad women at large have been riled and are speaking out. I do hope that there will  be ears that will listen and at the very least engage in debate and try to understand what it is that has riled womanhood.

I was riled yesterday to the point of boiling over into this article. Luckily in my case reason did prevail and I am very grateful. I will take this a a great positive step forward.

 

Anxiety and fruit flies


There are many lovely TED talks about anxiety and mental disorders but I recently watched one about some research using fruit flies to determine brain function. So interesting to realise that the brain is superbly complicated and yet we can actually get to understand things at molecular as well as genetic level.

Can you untangle the mind of a fly and genetically modify the circuit? Well yes!

Who would have thought. And this has taught us – the human race quite a lot about the finesse of operations of the brain.

The brain is not a bag of chemical soup and we can not change the flavour of the soup to treat psychiatric disorders. This specific researcher likens using “broad spectrum” anti-depressants to treat disorders to pouring oil over the whole engine rather than into the oil holder. WE need to be more specific in order to get better results and have fewer side-effects.

On another note, the brain is also intuitive and there are many many ways in terms of anxiety that one can tone down or up. Deep “proper” breathing is one of them. Also our bodies are designed to move a whole lot more than we do these days and you will be surprised at how much you can unwind your mind by winding and unwinding your body.

Food for thought – fruit flies brains can actually teach us a whole lot about our wonderfully complex brains and yet some of the answers we so desperately seek are actually in front of our very own eyes.

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